Rhonda says...

"Hey you moron, remember when you used to play The Sims?  All your characters were lesbians!  They totally flirted with the chick Sims, to the point where the pretty little lady Sims would get annoyed by your weirdness because you kept trying to kiss them! HOW DID YOU NOT KNOW YOU WERE GAY?!?"

Yes, it's true.  Rhonda was in there, trying to get out and live vicariously through my Sims characters.  Flirting, kissing, even "woohooing" with the other girl Sims.  One of my characters even managed to marry.  I lost interest in the game and quit playing before they could adopt though.  

Okay Rhonda, I get it. 

Leaving the Cloud of Denial

I'm gay.


It's taken me 28 years to say those words.  And god, it feels good.


I think I've probably always known, but I was living in denial - a state of subconscious denial for most of my life, with rare moments of clarity followed by a conscious effort to push away unwelcome thoughts and feelings.

But at 27, I finally (soberly) acknowledged that I might be attracted to women.  Of course, I still wasn't ready to say "gay."  I wasn't even ready to say "bisexual."  But I decided I could admit to maybe possibly kinda being bicurious.  So, on New Years Day, I typed "bicurious" into my google search bar and found a support website for bisexual/bicurious women.  Scared out of my mind, I created a new email account so that I could sign up for this site in secret.  I wrote my first post in the welcome forum, titled "New and a Little Nervous" (though it should have said "New and Absolutely Shitting My Pants!!!")


That day changed my life - nothing will ever be the same.  In the 5 months and 28 days since I joined this site, affectionately known as "shy," my life has changed to no end.  I don't think I could put it better than I already have, so here is my latest "about me" on shybi:

It has taken me 28 years to become comfortable with who I am. For years I pushed away thoughts of women, certain I couldn't be gay. For years I haven't felt like my true self, have dealt with depression and an unexplainable feeling of worthlessness. It took me 27 years to even admit to being "bicurious," and even then I did so under a cloak of shame. In the 5 months since joining shy, I've grown so much. I've gained so much self-confidence, accepted that I'm not bicurious, not bisexual, and actually EMBRACED myself as a lesbian, I've even come out to family and friends and all of Facebook. I've never felt more confident or comfortable about who I am. And of course, I fell head over heels in love with the beautiful Callie T. My world will never be the same, and for that I am eternally grateful.


This blog will chronicle my journey coming to terms with my sexuality and life after coming out.  Welcome aboard!